Rape by Deception?
This week Israelis, Arabs, Feminists and Orthodox Rabbis all scratched their heads and decided that an Arab man was to spend the next 18 months in jail for deceiving a woman into having sex with him after telling her his name was Dudi and he was Jewish. . Sabbar Kashur, 30, was sentenced to 18 months in prison on Monday after the court ruled that he was guilty of rape by deception. According to the complaint filed by the woman with the
When she later found out that he was not Jewish but an Arab, she filed a criminal complaint for rape and indecent assault.
Although Kashur was initially charged with rape and indecent assault, this was changed to a charge of rape by deception as part of a plea bargain arrangement.
When you read through blogs and deeper stories you find that many hard line feminist groups agree with the Israeli courts decision. That deception is another use of force that this man used on this woman. Sooooo it got me to thinking if I ever deceived anyone enough to get them to bed, love me, give me money, etc. What are the limits of ‘deception’ to get something that you want? I was married to a woman for many years before I admitted to myself and the world that I was gay. I don’t know if that was rape, but it was very painful for all the parties involved.
If you tell someone you meet that you went to Harvard and all you did was have coffee in the commons and your date gushed and went home with you, are you guilty of rape? If you told them you were a neuroscientist and you really flipped burgers are you guilty of rape? What are the limits of persuasion?
I believe this particular case had some racial undertones of course. Israelis and Arabs have a history or animosity that has no boundaries. I doubt that if had told her he was a Jewish Doctor at
Of course being a gay man in a loving relationship with another man this got me thinking. Look at the power this woman had that I will never have. I could never go to court claiming someone deceived me into getting me in bed. In the
Well all I take away from this is…The difference between rape and rapture????? 15 minutes of salesmanship.
Have a peaceful week.